Unless you look like Heidi Klum, you are probably less than excited to put your photo online. We've seen every attempt to avoid it, including the blurry shot and pictures dating back to the Clinton era (that clothing and those hair styles are very telling of the times!). But then there’s the total cop out: no photo at all. Ladies, we know it's a drag to find just the right photo for your profile (let alone more than one) but, to your male counterparts, it's no small matter. Though it may sound shallow, the truth is that many men will make a decision about you based solely on your photo.
Men are visual creatures; your gorgeous face is the basis for his initial attraction. While women are more likely to find men attractive beginning with an emotional or mental connection, later deciding whether they find him physically attractive, men work in reverse. They need a spark of physical attraction first so that their desire to get to know you can grow. Nothing is going to change this. But here's the good news: this can work in your favor.
By attempting to show men what they most desire to see, you increase your odds of having your profile not only looked at, but also considered more frequently. Think about it this way – how many profiles have you rejected because a man failed to share detailed information about his life other than height and eye color? For guys, they are more likely to skim over the profiles with poor pictures or no pictures… if they even bother to look at those profiles at all. It may seem unfair and superficial that a photo is so necessary to attract a man but, if all goes well, the two of you will be meeting face-to-face soon enough anyway. By choosing your best and most accurate photos, you will set yourself up for a much happier online dating experience. Just follow these guidelines:
Always have a photo with your profile
Again, not including a photo in her online dating profile is the kiss of death for a woman. Give prospective matches an opportunity to have their first spark of interest in you by visually representing yourself. Your photo also makes men want to know more about you. Having no photo at all is interpreted as a red flag, and makes men wonder, "What is she hiding?"
In fact, have three photos
One close up of your face, one showing your whole body, and one of you doing something active. You can be creative and show your personality with your pictures – no need for serious head shots. Remember to have fun! If a picture is worth a thousand words, be sure to exercise your words wisely, and show your best self to your dates.
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