Why are there so many questions in that online dating profile? Do women really have to know the minutiae of your income, political standing, family, and theory on the meaning of life before they decide whether or not they want to return your email? Well, no – but your answers to these sorts of profile questions give you a prime opportunity to catch a woman's eye. Fellas, you know how important a photo is to a profile… to her, what you write in your profile is worth a thousand pictures to you.
Women are hardwired to want men who are caring and sensitive, so this is what they look for in a profile. If your profile lists that you like to play and watch sports, have mastered several video games, and are a gourmet griller, will women know that you are also a good partner in a relationship? Not really, but she will assume that you can grill a mean steak! While all of the other tidbits tell her about what you enjoy, which is also important, they don't show her what kind of person you are. And, according to the women who call our Ask Mars Venus coaches, knowing more details about you is what makes the difference between no responses and an inbox full of emails.
Women get dozens, sometimes hundreds, of emails from men on dating sites. When she finally picks a few to check out, what will make you stand out from the other guys? The simple answer is: your profile. Your profile is your chance to write about yourself in such a way that you appeal to a woman's heart, mind, and spirit. As you write, keep a few things in mind.
- Answer every question, even the ones that seem inconsequential. The details are important to women and the online dating profile questions pinpoint what women want to know about potential dates. Use these prompts to your advantage and don’t be afraid to be specific.
- Go beyond the surface. Women are tuned into emotions; they will look for deeper meaning in most things that you write. By sharing more than "I like X," and, "I don't like X," women will be able to relate to you before you've met. Remember that women are most often interested in meeting men with whom they feel mental and emotional chemistry. It's one thing to share similar beliefs in politics, religion, and hobbies, but behind these similarities she's looking to see how you're going to treat her – will you call when you say you will? How are you on a bad day? And so on.
- Keep it clean and positive. That means no complaining or being crude. Even if your sense of humor leans toward the risqué, remember that you’re making a first impression. What can be really funny in conversation once you know a woman can be a major turnoff online where your sense of humor could be easily misunderstood. You don’t want her to base her opinion of you on a dirty joke, do you? Likewise, you may have had some unfortunate luck with relationships in the past, but dwelling on the characteristics that you don’t want a woman to have is going to make her pass you by. Focus on who you are, not your past relationship trials.
The key is to represent yourself as thoroughly and genuinely as possible in your online dating profile. That sincerity will land you leagues ahead of most other men on any dating site. It's a competitive world for men dating online and a skimpy profile can make it even harder to attract the women you'd most like to date.
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